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About Me

My life’s purpose is ever increasingly committed to self-awareness and service. This orientation shapes both my character and my coaching philosophy. This life, like for many of us, has been a road of self-discovery and illuminating the shadows within. I find myself ongoingly more true to and committed to who I am as presence more than personality.​

Through embracing spiritual teachings and committing to a life of Truth and Service, over the years I’ve been called to offer leadership, guidance and mentorship to those around me. As the Executive Director of Boys to Men Canada, I helped young men to navigate towards self-awareness, growth and healthy masculinity. As an educator, mentor and coach, I see the potential in people to grow towards greater freedom and love and I feel deeply honored in the chance to work with them in this calling.

Alongside my wife Tiffany, we co-create spaces of transformation and healing at our Vichara Yoga Shala in Wakefield, Quebec; offering Meditation, Yoga, and Ayurveda retreats. It's not just a livelihood; it's a dedication to growth and serving others.

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Training and Education

Tantric Training 
Levil 1+ 2 Tantra Training with Homa & Mukto  
Advanced Teacher Training with David Deida

Through my Tantra Level 1 and 2 training with Homa and Mukto in Bali, I explored the depths of energy, presence, and authentic connection in partnership. Building on this, I completed an advanced teacher training with David Deida, one of the founding pioneers of "men's work", refining my understanding of masculine and feminine dynamics and spiritual intimacy. These trainings have profoundly shaped my coaching, allowing me to guide clients toward greater alignment, self-awareness, and meaningful transformation within the domains of their relationships and their sacred sexuality.  

Integral Coaching Fundamentals
Training through Integral Coaching Canada

After experiencing 8 months of integral coaching as a client and benefitting enormously, I took the plunge into learning this powerful methodology.  The Integral Coaching methodology is based on identifying a topic (problem or issue) in a client's life and using metaphor as a means to shifting their relationship with that topic.  The beauty of this way is that the client develops a new way of being with the topic, rather than just a new understanding, leading to sustainable and everlasting change in their life.

Facilitation and Mentorship Training
Training through Boys to Men Canada

One day an ex-student invited me to a BTM Canada Adventure Weekend, which was a life changing moment.  Here was an example of an organization providing a holistic, growth-oriented educational experience that transcended the limits of what was possible within schools.  I saw a depth of resonance that inspired me towards becoming a Mentor.  After being invited into the leadership of BTMC, the founder mentored me in facilitation for 6 years and prepared me to become Executive Director, which I did in 2023.  I continue to work as Executive Director of Boys to Men Canada, guiding a team of mentors who work with boys/young men ages 10-25.

Masters of Education
University of McGill Masters Degree - Education and Society Program

My Master's research was focused upon mindfulness and anti-oppressive education as a lens for making sense of what it means to be educated.  My main interest was to look into how to invite students into more direct experiences of themselves and their world, through meditative and contemplative practice and discursive enquiry.  I am inspired by the work of Parker Palmer, Zak Stein, Ken Wilber and John Kabat-Zinn and their insights continue to express themselves through my work as an educator.

Teaching Career
High School Teacher - Working Mostly in Special Education

I worked in Canadian High Schools for 15 years,  with every demographic, but especially found myself working with the intellectually disadvantaged, special needs, neurodiverse, obstinate and defiant youth population.  I created many alternative programs and projects within schools.  And regardless of the human beings I taught, my love and spiritual practice guided how I interfaced with students, always nurturing their potential for growth, freedom and goodness.  I could never quite help but aim for the best with students and staff and my approaches were diverse and experimental, founded in experiential learning and a developmental paradigm that led to deep, authentic connections and self-discovery.

Addiction Recovery
Drug and Sex-Addiction Recovery Program

One of the greatest educational processes I lived was ending a 10-year cannabis addiction and 25-year pornography addiction. There was such a power and leverage I found in reaching out for help, receiving somatic counseling in support of my sobriety and attending fellowship meetings in service of my recovery. That power was in the humility to not only face the facts of being caught in the shape of the addict but also to look at the underlying reasons for the addiction in the first place and to take steps to cultivate a life that honoured the sacredness and blessing of my own life.

Meditation & Non-Duality
Retreats & Residential Ashram Living

Meditation and Non-Duality Meditation is the single-most effective fulcrum in leveraging change in my life and the educational initiation that I am most grateful for. Thank you to S.N. Goenka for the teaching of Vipassanna meditation and the gift of recogning the power of equanimity. Everlasting gratitude to Sri Mooji Baba & Sri Ramana Maharishi for the ongoing blessing and transmission of Non-dual insight that lives in my heart moment to moment, and informs all of my service and work in this world.

Martials Arts & Boxing Training 
Learning to Fight & Face Fears

In my twenties I embarked on a journey of learning how to fight.  This led me to training in H20, a startup (now famous) MMA gym in Montreal, which culminated in professional MMA fighting. Through the process of training, I became a personal trainer and later became a certified boxing coach.  The power of this training was the acute focus that I learned to leverage, and the capacity to face my fears, which helps me stay in full control and in full presence even when dragons approach today.

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Contact Me

alexanderbonmiller@gmail.com

What'sapp: +1 514 984 6549

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